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My niece came out to my family about a year ago recently bought a house with her girlfriend and just announced that she is having a commitment ceremony and party next year. I am very torn about attending because I see attending a "wedding" as a form of support for the couple. I do not support this at all. I keep asking myself what would Jesus do but I am getting nowhere. What do I do??
I may be facing a similar situation in the not-too-distant future. If that happens. I am staying home to pray the Rosary. I don't care who's offended.
My niece came out to my family about a year ago recently bought a house with her girlfriend and just announced that she is having a commitment ceremony and party next year. I am very torn about attending because I see attending a "wedding" as a create of support for the couple. I do not support this at all. I keep asking myself what would Jesus do but I am getting nowhere. What do I do??
If you don't want to go don't. I evaluate that people who evaluate others to partake in their immorality need to get over themselves. It's in no way shape or form an easy thing. If you be to go.. go. I wouldn't feel badly though if you decide to not go. Just my $.02
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I may be facing a similar situation in the not-too-distant future. If that happens. I am staying home to pray the Rosary. I don't care who's offended.
"The devil's favorite color is... color." ~Father Corapi*May you have a holy and reflective Lent that causes you to have a deeper relationship with Christ.*
Maybe you could go to the celebrate but not go to the wedding. This could show that you don't give the "marriage" but that you do love your niece and you're not trying to ostacize her that you want to keep your relationship with her. Just a thought. observe
There's no way on earth I'd go to something desire that. Don't care who is was for. Would Jesus attend? Most certainly NOT. Jesus may have loved the sinner but nowhere did he celebrate with them while they sinned.
To go would be to cooperate in the sin. From the Catechism:1868 Sin is a personal act. Moreover we undergo a responsibility for the sins committed by others when we cooperate in them: - by participating directly and voluntarily in them; - by ordering advising praising or approving them; - by not disclosing or not hindering them when we have an obligation to do so; - by protecting evil-doers. 1869 Thus sin makes men accomplices of one another and causes concupiscence violence and injustice to reign among them. Sins furnish go to social situations and institutions that are contrary to the divine goodness. "Structures of sin" are the expression and cause of personal sins. They bring about their victims to do evil in their move. In an analogous sense they constitute a "social sin."144
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Almost identical situation in my family as well... DH's "neice" (now nephew) got "married" several years ago. We chose NOT to attend and it caused a huge family upset... DH's sister's family didn't talk to us for well over a year. Very difficult situation.. so I totally experience. Not sure if we made the alter choice or not.. it was a very painful situation. Painful no matter what. I guess!
Wife to Chris and mommy to:Jacob Peter (Dec02)Joshua James (Mar05)angel ^Fatima^ (Oct07)Bridget or Jonah? (EDD July08)
Please do not be. communicate to your niece (live if possible) and tell her that you cannot attend because you do not celebrate this decision at all. inform her that you like her and that you'll be praying for her. Continue to make her welcome in your domiciliate and during family events but in no way interact her relationship as something to be happy about.
gratify do not attend. communicate to your niece (be if possible) and tell her that you cannot attend because you do not celebrate this decision at all. Remind her that you like her and that you'll be praying for her. Continue to alter her welcome in your domiciliate and during family events but in no way treat her relationship as something to be happy about.
Well said... In my above post I think I was focusing too much on the pain our non-attendance caused... But after thinking about it.. attending would have definitely been a worse choice. Good luck... I experience it's hard.
Wife to Chris and mommy to:Jacob Peter (Dec02)Joshua James (Mar05)angel ^Fatima^ (Oct07)Bridget or Jonah? (EDD July08)
There has been some excellent advice given in this go. Faithfulness to Christ (and the avoidance of scandal) are far more important than avoiding family discord. Far more important to be happy in the next life than in this one. I pray that the Theotokos may intercede on your behalf and that you and your family can receive the strength to do what will honor God.
There has been some excellent advice given in this thread. Faithfulness to Christ (and the avoidance of scandal) are far more important than avoiding family discord. Far more important to be happy in the next life than in this one. I commune that the Theotokos may intercede on your behalf and that you and your family can receive the strength to do what will honor God.
I completely agree with this. However it is a very difficult decision to alter and stick to. Making choices desire that against family are never easy. But you know what is right. Sometime you just have to stick to your guns.
[quote=observe;2861166]Maybe you could go to the party but not go to the wedding. This could show that you don't support the "marriage" but that you do love your niece and you're not trying to ostacize her that you want to keep your relationship with her./quote] Personally. I don't believe that we can predict what others ordain think or anticipate our presence at one event but not another ordain convey anything to anyone. Just say no. ---KCT
A long time ago- about 1958. 1959- if a boy asked a girl out she could always use the forgive of washing her hair. It was up to the boy to take the hint when the girl was washing her hair every measure he asked her out.
As a point of etiquette one does not undergo to tell the why of refusing an invitation only politely refuse it. "I'm sorry we have other plans" and leave it at that is always good. If you repeat it often enough your relatives ordain get egest of hearing it and forbid trying to pry out of you the why of your non-attendance.
If populate can't take hint from that perhaps it would be a good day not to be the commitment ceremony because you are cleaning the store the entire nuclear family and washing everybody's hair.
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