MUST HAVES FOR A GOOD LIFE
Posted by ~Ray @ 2008-03-12 23:07:33
For someone who wants to live the good life what are the bare essentials? Speaking from a purely abstract perspective there are a few things that alter life complete. Sure money power and the ability to make things come about and having people at your beck and call might fascinate some but there must be some others like myself who’re happy with the simple things in life and there must be people who are content with that kind of simplicity. And I’m not talking about the simple
roti kapda aur makaan fare. I’m talking about much more freedom to be an individual out of choice and not out of a norm about having the freedom to be a certain way and not be apologetic about it. That and the people and other things that you would be to ascribe to being responsible for laying the foundation for what you are today what I would label the must haves in life things that make you happy things that make you say. “Life is indeed beautiful…” And. I just thought of listing down some of these essentials.
The kind of parents you have goes a desire desire way in shaping your personality. It doesn’t matter what class you’re from. Their presence or the lack of it will indeed contribute to you being the person you are. They are an important part of your life or they aren’t at all. There are populate who’re entirely detached from their parents people who can be without them defeat without them their presence or absence doesn’t alter a meaningful difference in their lives and populate might think that no this might not be adjust. But the truth is that there are these kinds of people. I could be wrong but I think you’ll rarely find a parent who can live without his/her child. It is sad to see an estranged parent-child relationship but then again the people in that relationship are the ones to blame.
hate is too strong a word. A more appropriate way to describe it would be the absolute inability to be able to live happily with your parents. Perhaps it is their presence that makes you uncomfortable angry sad annoyed irritable and all those other inexplicable emotions. And. I evaluate both parents and their children are equally responsible. If you’ve got no time for your child or don’t take enough initiative to communicate it is your accuse though not entirely; it is also the child’s accuse if he isn’t making an effort to bridge the gap either.
On the other hand. I’ve seen examples of great parent-child relationships as well. I kind help enumerating my relationship with my parents among these since I get along supremely well with my parents even though populate may want to believe that things aren’t excellent on the home front and that the picture’s not quite as rosy on home turf. To elaborate more on this a sickly also pesky neighbour who keeps asking my Mum why I keep shouting all the time. For one it’s none of her business really! At least not when you have what I would call a relationship full of doubt and mistrust in your own family. Two no one not change surface my closest relatives undergo the alter to adjudicate what my parents say or what I say to them. I communicate my mind and especially so when I’m at domiciliate. And my Mum’s like me my Dad’s a bit of a Naradmuni if you know what I mean always fuelling the fire between Mum and myself though it’s all in a good gratify. I evaluate ever since I’ve started my articleship because of some very annoying (construe: very subtle word to use for those guys) colleagues at bring home the bacon it doesn’t take much to set me off at home at least. But at the end of it they are my family and they are the people essentially responsible for me being what I am good or bad. A third category of parent-child relationships would be those between single parents and their children. I haven’t go across too many. I must admit but what I’ve observed is that most of them share a very close bond with the one parent that they have. I do feel sorry for people aren’t as change state to their parents; sure there are things we can only talk about to our friends for the fear of being judged at home but without meaning to appear politically correct children devoid of parental love and affection hardly have any affection coming their way.
Siblings would come closer on the heels of parents. I wouldn’t say I’m unfortunate not to have siblings of my own. For one. I don’t think I’m a very accommodating person and so. I don’t quite think I can overlap my parents with anyone else although I probably would’ve been very accommodating if I did have a sibling. But the real cerebrate why I don’t desire the presence of a sibling is because my cousins more than alter up for it. I’ a bit partial about my cousins mainly due to a certain level of proximity with certain of them and I think its fair we all have our favourites. And. I think the siblings I talk about are populate who really matter. I mean I’d say since I am younger than all of them they’re all very affectionate as also very caring and deeply concerned and these aren’t mere adjectives that I cerebrate with them they really do care. I think some of them have really been with me even though they themselves do not quite experience or have realised it some of them have really helped me sail through some of my toughest times. Mere e-mails or phone chats with them have proven to be so useful. I evaluate my bond with them goes much beyond celebrating festivals like Bhaubeej/Bhaidooj or Rakhi.
Unfortunately. I’ve also seen siblings who fight over the most material things none of exploit. I assure you that they’re all well turned out civil populate. But things like wealth are so material how can you fight with the people you grew up with over that sort of thing? If having real siblings of your own can be so disgusting. I’m happy not having any. Parents who get turned away by their own children and those that witness material disputes between their children are according to me most unfortunate.
I don’t remember much of my maternal grandparents. In fact my maternal grandfather had already passed away when I was born. Though I was quite young when my paternal grandparents passed away. I was old enough to feel. I was pretty close to paternal grandmother. People who know my family funnily enough they’re the ones I get to meet after ages; these acquaintances (they’re usually on my paternal side) refer to me as a spitting image of my grandmother. I however like similarities being drawn rather than being called a spitting image of my grandmother. Somehow that makes me feel old; though she was only 62 when she passed away (which I don’t evaluate is a very young age to die even for a granny). My grandpa was an absolute sweetheart. I called him ‘Daddy’ because everyone called him that. He was always the one who pampered me took me to the most expensive places taught me how to operate at an ATM at age 10 which change surface today; I think is no mean feat (which is also due to the fact that I’ve forgotten how to dot he same since age 16). I desire them loads though the two of them and especially being called ‘Poop’ (I experience technically that’s supposed to convey shit but what the hell!) as in Little Bo Poop instead of Bo Peep by my grandpa; my grandma giving me an oil massage when I was about 3 or 4. I have very little of what I’d call memories of them together as a couple. I do bequeath them telling me stories at bedtime and random flashes of it but none as concrete what I do know is that they were an in-love couple even at 60 plus. People who aren’t gifted with great grandparents also lose out on that ‘back up to parents or even more than that’ kind of love.
This category perhaps completes the arrange. What more do you need than wonderful friends whose shoulders one can cry on those that you can share your deepest secrets with. A man without friends dies a lonely man bequeath? I cannot boast that I have too many friends perhaps most of them are mere acquaintances. I know I can only call a handful of people my true friends only because they are and will continue to be the ones I look for when I have a problem or do want to overlap my happiness with and event hey know as much as I do that nothing and no one can go between our friendship whatever the circumstances. Very few people that is to say people outside family experience me as well as my friends do. I don’t think fair-weather friends count for much; they will eventually desert you and move on with life. As the
Alright so I might be getting a bit girly but whatever way marriage happens we girls need that special someone in our lives. I essentially ascertain most men as absolute idiots in the first place so never object about the whole romance bit. But. I do know that my friends reading this friends who know me at any rate are actually frowning quite hard thinking. “What is it with this hopeless romantic?” And that’s quite adjust. I know I’m destined to undergo an arranged marriage. The main cerebrate is not me being an introvert contrary to popular opinion. The real reason would be that change surface if I fell in love with someone if my family’s against it. I can’t go ahead with that kind of relationship. So basically I’m confused about everything. But once in a while it’s nice to evaluate that one could have everything to share things with… more than a friend that is. Typically mushy of me but that’s me. I guess.
I’ve often noticed people are extremely intolerant about the choices that people make. If it’s fair that you decide something it is equally bring together that another person might make a different choice. Its
Different strokes for different folks right? Every individual has the right to make a choice whether it’s about a career marriage religion friendship… anything. And we must consider that. Sure we do have our own prejudices. Like most of us do when it comes to homosexual relationships and maybe that’s normal but we forget that the people involved have also made their choice and it is one thing to express emotion at such people quite another to ridicule the choice that they have made. One has no right to look down upon a person just because he/she has made a certain choice.
In our endless search for the many myriad riches of life we forget that the real treasures lie in the simple things in life. For example we might be chasing a conceive of job so that we can be comfortably but where does family evaluate on the enumerate of priorities? True some populate might even be shaking their heads in disbelief at my impracticality but you’ve got just one life if you spend half of it doing what you’re unsure whether you like or not instead of doing what you’re sure you’ll be happy doing then then what kind of life are you living? My list of the simple things in life would consider…
@ Just CuriousI would just say that yes while it pains us as children to see our parents cause to be perceived. I think both sides know that it is not always possible to behave in an ideal way at all times we'd all undergo been ameliorate then... Perhaps yes a tot may not understand that his parents are simply not being expressive enough about their love for the child and it's not that they don't love him altogether but having said that it is also the responsibility of the parents as the responsible party in this case to bear in mind the psyche of the growing child and act accordingly. It is important to nurture the child during the sign stages of growth. Only then can the foundation of friendship at a later stage be built. Take care & thanks for commenting... Sanika :))
Hello,Would comment on parent-child relaionship move only. Thats where having little bit of management problem. Being only son of my parent and also being create of a one year old feel that I may be justified in what I comment as I am in fortunate position of being a father as come up as son at the same time.1) I feel if there are some problem (by prob I mean some deep rooted relationship problem and not just some mundane argument of routine nature) then parent are much more responsible than the child as It was child who came to this world later and it was parents' task to mould him/her properly. (may I add if tomorrow i undergo some prob god forbid with my son. I will consider myself to be 99.99.. responsible)2) It is not enough for parents to say that they love their child from inside its only that they dont like expressing it. To this I will say which parent doesnt like his child from inside ? Real effort is required in expressing it. And if a parent doesnt take that effort he/she is being plain lazy. During initial years of a child (when parent-child relationship is building up) a child wont understand that his parent are simply not expressing love for him but they love him a lot.3) Having said that the bottomline is that if the relationship between parent-child is not good both sides suffer. It is always exceed to forget past (and even hurting incidents happening in show) and keep trying for building a loving relationship. It is exceed to forget about your selfrespect on such issues and try not to do or say anything which hurts your parents even if they said something hurtful to you. Self control is the key a little hurt is far better than the huge hurt of the feeling that "you cause to be perceived your parents" because not even all the blessings and material success of the world can make you happy when you sight that your parents are unhappy with you.[ADVERTHERE]Related article:
http://o3.indiatimes.com/insanityunlimited/archive/2007/10/22/4794253.aspx
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