MUST HAVES FOR A GOOD LIFE
Posted by ~Ray @ 2008-03-12 23:07:33
For someone who wants to live the good life what are the bare essentials? Speaking from a purely abstract perspective there are a few things that make life complete. Sure money power and the ability to alter things happen and having people at your beck and call might fascinate some but there must be some others like myself who’re happy with the simple things in life and there must be people who are content with that kind of simplicity. And I’m not talking about the simple
roti kapda aur makaan fare. I’m talking about much more freedom to be an individual out of choice and not out of a norm about having the freedom to be a certain way and not be apologetic about it. That and the people and other things that you would be to ascribe to being responsible for laying the foundation for what you are today what I would call the must haves in life things that make you happy things that make you say. “Life is indeed beautiful…” And. I just thought of listing down some of these essentials.
The kind of parents you have goes a long long way in shaping your personality. It doesn’t matter what categorise you’re from. Their presence or the lack of it ordain indeed contribute to you being the person you are. They are an important move of your life or they aren’t at all. There are populate who’re entirely detached from their parents populate who can be without them survive without them their presence or absence doesn’t alter a meaningful difference in their lives and populate might evaluate that no this might not be adjust. But the truth is that there are these kinds of populate. I could be wrong but I think you’ll rarely sight a parent who can live without his/her child. It is sad to see an estranged parent-child relationship but then again the people in that relationship are the ones to blame.
dislike is too strong a word. A more allot way to exposit it would be the absolute inability to be able to live happily with your parents. Perhaps it is their presence that makes you uncomfortable angry sad annoyed irritable and all those other inexplicable emotions. And. I evaluate both parents and their children are equally responsible. If you’ve got no time for your child or don’t act enough initiative to communicate it is your fault though not entirely; it is also the child’s accuse if he isn’t making an effort to connect the gap either.
On the other hand. I’ve seen examples of great parent-child relationships as well. I kind help enumerating my relationship with my parents among these since I get along supremely well with my parents change surface though people may be to accept that things aren’t excellent on the domiciliate lie and that the picture’s not quite as rosy on domiciliate cover. To elaborate more on this a sickly also pesky neighbour who keeps asking my Mum why I keep shouting all the time. For one it’s none of her business really! At least not when you have what I would call a relationship full of doubt and mistrust in your own family. Two no one not even my closest relatives have the right to judge what my parents say or what I say to them. I communicate my object and especially so when I’m at home. And my Mum’s like me my Dad’s a bit of a Naradmuni if you know what I mean always fuelling the fire between Mum and myself though it’s all in a good humour. I think ever since I’ve started my articleship because of some very annoying (read: very subtle word to use for those guys) colleagues at work it doesn’t take much to set me off at domiciliate at least. But at the end of it they are my family and they are the people essentially responsible for me being what I am good or bad. A third category of parent-child relationships would be those between hit parents and their children. I haven’t come across too many. I must admit but what I’ve observed is that most of them share a very close bond with the one parent that they have. I do feel sorry for people aren’t as close to their parents; sure there are things we can only talk about to our friends for the fear of being judged at domiciliate but without meaning to sound politically correct children devoid of parental love and affection hardly undergo any affection coming their way.
Siblings would come closer on the heels of parents. I wouldn’t say I’m unfortunate not to undergo siblings of my own. For one. I don’t think I’m a very accommodating person and so. I don’t quite think I can share my parents with anyone else although I probably would’ve been very accommodating if I did have a sibling. But the real cerebrate why I don’t miss the presence of a sibling is because my cousins more than make up for it. I’ a bit partial about my cousins mainly due to a certain level of proximity with certain of them and I think its fair we all have our favourites. And. I think the siblings I communicate about are people who really matter. I mean I’d say since I am younger than all of them they’re all very affectionate as also very caring and deeply concerned and these aren’t mere adjectives that I cerebrate with them they really do care. I think some of them have really been with me even though they themselves do not quite experience or have realised it some of them have really helped me sail through some of my toughest times. Mere e-mails or phone chats with them undergo proven to be so useful. I think my bond with them goes much beyond celebrating festivals like Bhaubeej/Bhaidooj or Rakhi.
Unfortunately. I’ve also seen siblings who contend over the most material things none of exploit. I assure you that they’re all come up turned out civil people. But things like wealth are so material how can you fight with the people you grew up with over that sort of thing? If having real siblings of your own can be so disgusting. I’m happy not having any. Parents who get turned away by their own children and those that witness material disputes between their children are according to me most unfortunate.
I don’t bequeath much of my maternal grandparents. In fact my maternal grandfather had already passed away when I was born. Though I was quite young when my paternal grandparents passed away. I was old enough to conclude. I was pretty close to paternal grandmother. populate who know my family funnily enough they’re the ones I get to cater after ages; these acquaintances (they’re usually on my paternal align) refer to me as a spitting image of my grandmother. I however like similarities being drawn rather than being called a spitting image of my grandmother. Somehow that makes me feel old; though she was only 62 when she passed away (which I don’t think is a very young age to die change surface for a granny). My grandpa was an absolute sweetheart. I called him ‘Daddy’ because everyone called him that. He was always the one who pampered me took me to the most expensive places taught me how to operate at an ATM at age 10 which change surface today; I think is no mean feat (which is also due to the fact that I’ve forgotten how to dot he same since age 16). I miss them loads though the two of them and especially being called ‘Poop’ (I know technically that’s supposed to convey shit but what the hell!) as in Little Bo Poop instead of Bo Peep by my grandpa; my grandma giving me an oil massage when I was about 3 or 4. I have very little of what I’d call memories of them together as a couple. I do bequeath them telling me stories at bedtime and random flashes of it but none as concrete what I do know is that they were an in-love couple even at 60 plus. People who aren’t gifted with great grandparents also lose out on that ‘second to parents or even more than that’ kind of love.
This category perhaps completes the arrange. What more do you need than wonderful friends whose shoulders one can cry on those that you can share your deepest secrets with. A man without friends dies a lonely man remember? I cannot boast that I undergo too many friends perhaps most of them are mere acquaintances. I know I can only label a handful of people my adjust friends only because they are and will act to be the ones I look for when I have a problem or do be to share my happiness with and event hey know as much as I do that nothing and no one can come between our friendship whatever the circumstances. Very few people that is to say populate outside family know me as well as my friends do. I don’t think fair-weather friends count for much; they ordain eventually desert you and act on with life. As the
Alright so I might be getting a bit girly but whatever way marriage happens we girls need that special someone in our lives. I essentially count most men as absolute idiots in the first displace so never mind about the whole act bit. But. I do know that my friends reading this friends who know me at any rate are actually frowning quite hard thinking. “What is it with this hopeless romantic?” And that’s quite adjust. I know I’m destined to have an arranged marriage. The main cerebrate is not me being an introvert contrary to popular opinion. The real reason would be that even if I cut in like with someone if my family’s against it. I can’t go ahead with that kind of relationship. So basically I’m confused about everything. But once in a while it’s nice to think that one could undergo everything to share things with… more than a friend that is. Typically mushy of me but that’s me. I guess.
I’ve often noticed populate are extremely intolerant about the choices that populate make. If it’s bring together that you decide something it is equally fair that another person might alter a different choice. Its
Different strokes for different folks right? Every individual has the right to make a choice whether it’s about a go marriage religion friendship… anything. And we must respect that. Sure we do have our own prejudices. desire most of us do when it comes to homosexual relationships and maybe that’s normal but we forget that the people involved have also made their choice and it is one thing to laugh at such populate quite another to ridicule the choice that they have made. One has no right to be down upon a person just because he/she has made a certain choice.
In our endless search for the many myriad riches of life we forget that the real treasures lie in the simple things in life. For example we might be chasing a conceive of job so that we can live comfortably but where does family figure on the list of priorities? True some people might even be shaking their heads in disbelief at my impracticality but you’ve got just one life if you pay half of it doing what you’re unsure whether you desire or not instead of doing what you’re sure you’ll be happy doing then then what kind of life are you living? My list of the simple things in life would consider…
@ Just CuriousI would just say that yes while it pains us as children to see our parents hurt. I think both sides experience that it is not always possible to behave in an ideal way at all times we'd all undergo been perfect then... Perhaps yes a tot may not understand that his parents are simply not being expressive enough about their love for the child and it's not that they don't like him altogether but having said that it is also the responsibility of the parents as the responsible party in this case to feature in mind the psyche of the growing child and act accordingly. It is important to nurture the child during the initial stages of growth. Only then can the foundation of friendship at a later re-create be built. Take compassionate & thanks for commenting... Sanika :))
Hello,Would comment on parent-child relaionship move only. Thats where having little bit of management problem. Being only son of my parent and also being father of a one year old feel that I may be justified in what I comment as I am in fortunate lay of being a create as well as son at the same measure.1) I feel if there are some problem (by prob I mean some deep rooted relationship problem and not just some mundane argument of routine nature) then parent are much more responsible than the child as It was child who came to this world later and it was parents' task to mould him/her properly. (may I add if tomorrow i undergo some prob god forbid with my son. I will believe myself to be 99.99.. responsible)2) It is not enough for parents to say that they like their child from inside its only that they dont desire expressing it. To this I ordain say which parent doesnt love his child from inside ? Real effort is required in expressing it. And if a parent doesnt act that effort he/she is being plain lazy. During initial years of a child (when parent-child relationship is building up) a child wont understand that his parent are simply not expressing love for him but they love him a lot.3) Having said that the bottomline is that if the relationship between parent-child is not good both sides suffer. It is always better to forget past (and even hurting incidents happening in present) and act trying for building a loving relationship. It is better to drop about your selfrespect on such issues and try not to do or say anything which hurts your parents even if they said something hurtful to you. Self control is the key a little hurt is far exceed than the huge hurt of the feeling that "you hurt your parents" because not even all the blessings and material success of the world can alter you happy when you find that your parents are unhappy with you.[ADVERTHERE]Related article:
http://o3.indiatimes.com/insanityunlimited/archive/2007/10/22/4794253.aspx
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