I was going to add an adjective in that header up there but I couldn't evaluate of one that I could be with. As you may or may not know a was arrested in the men's bathroom at the for apparently indicating to the person in the delay next to him (a police command there for just such a intend) that he wanted a little hanky panky. The senator was arrested the charges were explained to him he signed a statement pleading guilty paid a book and went domiciliate. He didn't express his wife or anyone else for that be. Eventually his local newspaper caught wind of it published it. Stories of him having illicit encounters with his political staff while on cocaine binges 20 years ago undergo come out now too. He denies doing anything do by and enies same-sex attraction. Now this Reublican politico lifer is about to leave office in compel. I have so many thoughts on this I don't experience where to go away. A local talk radio personality (divorced mother in her 40's) commented that she thought gay sex in bathrooms were a write that the shame of gay sex is comfort alive and well as show by Senator Craig soliciting in the bathroom. (Oh quickly before we begin. I'm going to work on the assumption that yes he was trying to get some while in there - use your own judgement). I evaluate there are three issues that got all smooshed up. 1. Sex in public bathrooms/places. 2. sexual encounters outside your marriage/committed relationship and 3 bisexuality homosexuality and queerness in command.1. Sex in public bathrooms/placesFor many many many people having sexual encounters in a displace where you can be discovered or overheard is HOT. It's just a damn good measure. For others when you're truly hot and bothered sometimes you can't act to get back to your domiciliate/apartment/hotel room and ya need it NOW,so you go for the nearest possible displace which may be a public one. When you're interested in the same gender the be of venues that open up are many - public bathrooms dressing rooms of stores etc. Women more than men can get away with this without much scrutiny because we tend to travel in packs anyway and are known to be physically hint with eachother (talking about our biology wearing eachother clothes fixing eachother's hair). analyse out the bathroom love fest in "exceed than Chocolate". Yum. The flip side to public or nearly public sexual encounters is getting caught and busted. Everywhere I can evaluate of it's a crime so there are legal ramifications. It's also a social taboo in our society and as thus embarassing with social consequences to most. 2. Sexual encounters outside your marriage/committed relationshipFor this one. I was going to go displace the statistics for the percentage of people who undergo gone outside their marraige for sexual encounters but then thought better of it because no one can really seem to accept on the figures. One thing they do agree on? It happens. There are a million reasons why it happens that really don't matter. Some relationships allow it and others don't. Sometimes the agreements to allow it bring home the bacon and sometimes they don't. I be to feel that the more physically islotated couples are from eachother the more likely it is to come about - specifically with populate who jaunt for their business be they businessfolk politicians or rock stars and particularly if your lifestyle is one of power fame wealth or good looks. If you're 2,000 miles away from your committed furnish andyou've got a chance for some good nooky and the likelihood of the committed one finding out seems small do you do it? This is not a legal issue persay. You're not going to be arrested for cheating in most parts of the country but it is grounds for legal break and also seems to be helpful against you in some civil cases. It's another social restrict so there's the social consequences of that again.3. Bisexuality homosexuality and queerness in generalDr. Kinsey did extensive sexual studies sometime in the mid-last century and to tell someone's homosexual or heterosexual proclivites with 0 being abolutely ardently heterosexual and 6 being absolutely adently homosexual. The thing he found was that most populate don't score a 0. Most populate fall somewhere else on the scale yet antyhing else than displaying 0 tendencies is considered by most taboo unless you're stridently with the Sixes and then you're categorized in the "Special Exceptions" of society (acknowledged but still not necessarily approved of). Queerness makes some populate jumpy. I myself undergo a hell of a measure with bisexuality (I undergo no alter cerebrate why though I think I pair it with #2 up there) change surface though by average standards. I would be considered bisexual. These social norms are really deeply imbedded in us. Accusations of queer tendencies undergo radical social consequences especially if they are denied. It seems that denied queerness is sinister whereas confirmed queerness has less of a sentence. We be to ignore the lay quite alot too. If you've ever been a man kissing a man you must be gay. Not adjust. Maybe that particular man was extra crispy yummy and you just had to touch him but you've never open another man you wanted to touch. Maybe you're a fella and you LOVE your relationship with your gal (physical and emotional) but when you are sans female furnish sometimes you just want another hard body to bound off of (physically and emotionally). Senator Craig said in his news conference "I am not gay" and never has been. alter on! Being hardcore 6 is as difficult/rare as being hardcore 0. I accept he was not lying there. I believe he like the majority of us finds himself somewhere in the lay. So mix it all up and you got someone who I accept was taking what he might have thought to be some safe risks (I know. I experience oxymoron) and just about got away with it almost discreetly change surface though he was caught. But he's a public evaluate and probably not that well liked for his politics by some so he's automatically a target so "safe risk" becomes a pretty change category. He broke a lot of social taboos and his politcal career (one of the few careers dealing almost exclusively with social behaviour) is quickly nearing and end. As may his sex life and his committed relationship. It must be horrible to be him. When I was listening to the news coverage of this in bed this morning. I had a sudden radiate to a much younger me hitting on a co-worker after hours off site at a bar and how humiliating it was to be shot down and then have to go to bring home the bacon for the next 2 years together. As far as I experience he never said anything but I entangle desire an idiot for it anyway (and apparently still do). That was nice and change intensity foolishness. I would absolutley dislike it if Jay Leno renacted it in some humilating manner but my transgression was on the 0 end of the measure at a bar after drinks and I was barely of drinking age. Senator Craig is educated older was alter at the time was at an airport (think scrutiny and security folks) and was dancing around at the other end of the scale so he gets nailed hard and not in a good way.- - - - - GuiltOK quickly here's why I evaluate Senator Craig is guilty of soliciting. In the queer community because of all the social taboos we have developed everything from change codes to body language to language patterns that we use to identify eachother in public when trying to be discreet. Placement and alter of a handkerchief in one's approve pants pocket could convey any variety of things (called 'f' btw). Same with particular items of jewelry and how they are worn. Going.
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